Gay Cars and Straight Talk

Posted: 10/31/2010 in Church, Philosophy
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Last week, I attended a film screening of a documentary called, Fagbug, on IPFW’s campus.  The premise of this movie was that there was a young homosexual woman, Erin, who went to her car one morning and found her Volkswagen Beetle vandalized with the words “fAg” and “U R GAY” in spray paint.  Deeply hurt and concerned as to why someone would commit such a hate crime, she decided to display this hatred rather than hide it. This provoked Erin to start a cross-country tour of her car, riding through 41 states in search of ignorance and gay rights.  Though the movie itself was mediocre at best, the producer of this movie and owner of the vehicle was there giving her take on the outcome of the movie.

I have to be honest, going into this movie, I suspected that Christianity would take the brunt force of the hate portrayed in this movie.  In fact, though Erin didn’t outright admit this, she expected much of the same, which is why she started her tour driving through the Bible belt… just waiting for harassment.  However, Erin came to find that 99% of the discrimination that she received was not from the Christian community at all, but from the gay community.  Even when there was disagreement of ideologies, most Christians that she met believed that no one should be the product of a hate crime. This brought a bit of relief and thanks that my fellow brothers and sisters had loved her well, but her commentary on this was incredibly interesting.

After the documentary was screened, the audience had an opportunity to ask any questions of Erin.  One student asked her how to best address a situation when they are being targeted for prejudice.  Her answer was one of the most profound answers she could have said.

She said, “Point out their humanity.”

Often when people come at you, they come as an idea attacking another idea.  They come with fists raised, ready to start a fight, hoping for retaliation.  They say hurtful things, even if they are not generally hurtful people.  She found that the best way to communicate with someone vehemently attacking her is to ask questions like, “Where are you from?” or “How many siblings do you have?”

It is by the recognition of the humanity that we share that we can speak to each other not as issues but as people.

She said that, using this method, she has turned her greatest enemies into friends (or at least casual acquaintances).

Why is it, then, that we so often see winning people to our side or proving a staunch point as the ultimate victory?  The LORD speaks to and moves through us in the context of relationships.  The Greatest Commandments, according to Christ, are the ones directly related to relationships.

Though Erin is in no context affiliated with the Church, I think we have a valuable lesson that we can learn from her, which was first modeled by Christ.  Love your enemies. Pray for those that persecute you. Get to know the people who oppose you.  You just might discover that you are both human, which is shockingly one of the most revolutionary realities we might discover about each other.

  1. Mmm. This is wonderful.

  2. tmtimbro says:

    wow. that is so awesome. i love you dude.

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